Well hello April. I’m not quite sure how we got here so fast! Are you? It’s been a fun journey with you as we’ve sailed through this Healthy Balanced Life Series. This week brings our final tip….well at least of the tips up my sleeve that I am sharing in this series. I’ve got lots more!
Setting up healthy morning and bedtime rituals, staying properly hydrated, being Sunday Savvy, getting your fit foodie on and sweating are all great, but if your self-talk is negative a lot, then you aren’t getting the full benefit of your healthier, more balanced life. I know, all that work and a big piece might still be missing? Yes! What to know why……
It’s because the gray matter between your ears hasn’t been nurtured and that gray matter is pretty darn important in your daily ability to live, and live vibrantly! So let’s look at your mindset.
Healthy, Balanced Life Tip: Be Nice To Yourself
Why this is important: Most of set us goals and genuinely work hard to achieve them, only to sit scratching our heads when we keep falling short. What to know why? We get in our own way. Even when we are working super hard. We get in our way with this sly little assailant called negative self-talk.
How many times have you been given a compliment, and you ignore it with silence (because you didn’t know how to respond comfortably), or dismiss it with some sarcastic response acting as if you don’t deserve the compliment. I know I have!
How you talk to yourself directly affects what you believe about yourself. What you believe about yourself directly affects your actions. Your actions and your words directly affect others around you, and your ability to achieve your goals.
You are complete and whole just as you are.
You are enough.
You are beautiful inside and out.
You are filled with gifts and talents.
You are strong and courageous.
No buts are allowed to follow those statements! I didn’t used to spend a lot of time with positive self-talk. And I don’t always now, but I am working on it, and I have become much more aware of when I do get a case of the negative nellies, and now do something immediately to right the ship before I sink into despair or reduce myself to a good vent/cry session. I’m not suggesting bottling up emotions, I’m simply suggesting you become aware of your self-talk and start doing something about it. When you are aware that you didn’t meet a goal because you never had the mindset to meet it in the first place, you have a powerful tool in the palm of your hand….or in your head so to speak.
Best Practices: The moment you say or think something negative, stop and positively affirm yourself. When someone compliments you, a simple “Thank you” with a smile will do. Or elaborate on that “Thank you” and talk about how good you felt after working so hard. Get a conversation going! We all could use more connection.
Once you get better at recognizing the negativity, correcting it and accepting compliments, go one step further. Write down a few positive things about yourself everyday. Or start a daily affirmation ritual. If you remember from our first week, I like to do affirmations with sun salutations. When you are moving your body, stretching it out, taking in deep breaths, those affirmations sink in deeper. It feels so good!
The more you shift your self-talk to positive and affirming, the more successes you will have. Your life will be fuller and richer. It will trickle to others around you and they will take note. It’s easier to love someone who loves themselves. And if you have kids, they will benefit. Kids are sponges and mirrors. They will learn the value and beauty of positive self-talk from you!
Say something nice to yourself. Right now!